irvinehomeowner
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Yes, singles and DINKs have a very hard time understanding the whole parent thing. I've had many discussions with Lane Meyer on OCReader regarding this... and AZDave is so oblivious he makes fun of the children in his IHB posts.roundcorners said:Being a parent means literally your life is over. I was trying to explain this to a friend of mine over the weekend who after 10 years of marriage still doesn?t have kids; and after 15 minutes of examples and illustrations of how hard the kid is a times, I just have to realize that no matter how much I tried, there is just no use. Until he pops out a kid for himself, he will never know the blessings and challenges of being a parent.
Yes, the sooner you realize and stop fighting the fact that your life is NOT yours anymore as a parent the sooner you?ll find peace. Your time, money, resources are NOT yours anymore; your friends, job, career, hobbies and ambitions are NOT yours anymore; if you thought being married has taken your identify away from you; wait till you have kids...!
But... "life is not over"... it's just evolved and become better. Parenting isn't for everyone, but for those of us who love it... we wouldn't change a thing. Well... I take that back, I would probably want to be a father 10 years sooner because that's 10 more years I can have with my kids... and maybe my grandkids/great grandkids.
As I've said before, my phone has replaced my brain. I don't have to remember stuff anymore because I can always look it up. No need for a phonebook or a computer to look up phone numbers of restaurants or stores. No need for GPS or written directions... just give me an address and I'll find you. What's the name of that actor in that movie I can't remember?In saying all of this I?m not one of those dads who are glued to the phone while the kid is trying to get my attention; I?m almost always not looking at the phone while someone is in the room, and I know better to check it when the wife is talking. But it is totally handy when the desktop and laptop is out of the question. It is not a cure-all to being a parent, but it sure is handy in recovering some things that keep me sane over a difficult weekend.
In a few years... they'll just Bluetooth into your head so you don't have to even type/touch the screen anymore.
Funny story... a friend of ours was trying to text someone and she kept having to re-speak into her phone because it wasn't translating her speech-to-text properly. Wouldn't it been easier if she just typed it (and hers did have a physical keyboard)?
P.S. All those things you like to do on Android... iOS makes it easier for non-techies (unlike us)... that's how Apple perpetuates their existence... touch screen phones didn't explode until after the iPhone came out.