[quote author="tenmagnet" date=1212198882]Let?s be fair, there were an equal number of people that felt my comments were misinterpreted and way over-blown.
They chose to pm me rather than express their view point on this thread.
I respect that.
If the moderator would like I could forward them over for review.
Again, there was nothing de-meaning or predatory about my response to his nightlife comment.
There?s no reason to over blow things and act like I?m targeting anyone here.
I was simply replying to his comments.
I?ve interacted with 25w100K+ before, and I know like me he goes out.
He even named some of the places he likes to go and his favorite drink, scotch.
Didn?t randomly post my response in the California gets it right thread or somewhere else where it would?ve been inappropriate.
There?s a lot of good people here, I?m not trying to create drama or have people draw sides. That?s never been my intention.
Neither has de-meaning women or being labled a predator because I appropriately replied to someones comment.</blockquote>
No need to forward the PMs. I have enough to deal with in my PMs today as is.
All the mods here at IHB have agreed that censorship is the last thing we ever want to do. For example it takes a lot to get banned here. You pretty much have to be drunk and constantly telling people to go f*%k themselves to get banned. I, as a moderator, am not going to censor anyone when the ignore button can be used on someone who has been misrepresented. Am I sticking up for Tenmagnet or taking a side here to my favorite child in a sibling fight? No, what he has said has offended some, so ignore him, and if you don't want to read the quotes, then don't. Have any of you actually gone to read some of his past posts? Hopefully you did take the time to do that before you chose to hit the ignore button on him, because like I said before he has asked some great questions and has been very kind and respectful to thank the person who has answered his question.
So while I am a moderator, I am not parent and I am not going to censor him or anyone else like him, and I doubt any of the other mods will either. It seems that most who are getting offended are those who did not grow up in OC. Well, I did, and everything Ten says is the typical stereotype of a portion of our society here. So much so, I doubt he is really like that in real life, it is too much satire to be real. Real or not it can be offensive, but it is the truth. Have any of you been to Sutra? He isn't joking about that place. Does that mean he is a predator, no, and yes there are some at Sutra who are, but not everyone there is and I highly doubt Ten is that one. But, that is because I took the time to read some of his previous non-offensive posts to realize he is actually a very kind person.
That is my opinion, moderator or not, I will always give my opinion. I come here because I can do that and not because I have to watch what I say, and I wouldn't be here if that were the case. Trooper is my friend, I normally have her back, this time she can chose to have her side or see it from my side. Either way, it won't change our friendship, and I have not taken her words lightly and everything she has said I have considered a valid point. However, we are both adults and realize we can't always be on the same page, and we can agree to disagree. The best part, she got to voice her opinion and I got to voice mine, without having to hold back on anything and that is the way it should be on IHB.
