CalGal_IHB
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<p>Well said, Nude. </p>
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tenmagnet_IHB
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<p>Nude,</p>
<p>You hit the cover off the ball with that post. Thanks for sharing. Also, this is a community thread where people like myself are looking to learn and share experiences, so don’t feel because you’re married that you shouldn’t contribute or weigh in on these topics, in fact it’s encouraged.</p>
<p>You hit the cover off the ball with that post. Thanks for sharing. Also, this is a community thread where people like myself are looking to learn and share experiences, so don’t feel because you’re married that you shouldn’t contribute or weigh in on these topics, in fact it’s encouraged.</p>
CalGal_IHB
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<p>Ok - hubby is getting on my nerves right now. Can I take back my post </p>
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irvinesinglemom_IHB
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This thread has become a "let's help ISM find a date" which was not what I had intended at all...I really thought that there were lots of people who'd come out of the woodwork interested in pairing up with another financially responsible person. That said, I greatly appreciate all your insight and suggestions. And awgee - hell, I'd LOVE to go rock climbing not to meet a date, but because it'd be a blast! I also want to take a Leadership class at UCI's Merage School, I want to learn how to knit, I want to go volunteer in a women's shelter, start scuba diving again, and go on more hikes with the OC Hiking and Backpacking Club. All of that is on hold, of course, except for going on a hike every other weekend, due to my personal situation. It is what it is, and I have no regrets, but for people like me there are limited opportunties to "do what you want to be doing and you'll meet your true love when fate says it's time" or something along those lines. Okay, cheers, gotta get back to work.
CalGal_IHB
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My comment wasn't directed to anyone in particular. It was just a comment for the "conversation."
tenmagnet_IHB
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<p class="MsoNormal">ISM, </p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Quite frankly, I’m surprised by the lack of female postings on this thread. It’s unfortunate because I would find great value in hearing more of the female/feminine insights. Surprisingly, the real depth is coming from a mostly male perspective. There are numerous well-articulated posts coming from both single and married men, united in sharing info and experiences. I want to thank all the guys who stepped up and weren’t afraid to participate and contribute. </p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Quite frankly, I’m surprised by the lack of female postings on this thread. It’s unfortunate because I would find great value in hearing more of the female/feminine insights. Surprisingly, the real depth is coming from a mostly male perspective. There are numerous well-articulated posts coming from both single and married men, united in sharing info and experiences. I want to thank all the guys who stepped up and weren’t afraid to participate and contribute. </p>
biscuitninja_IHB
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<p>CalGal, </p>
<p> After a nice of ballroom dancing alot of us are hungry and thirsty (and nicely dressed), so we go to Opah and get some snacks as well as something to drink. Anyways good luck. Alot of people tend to think of me as gay for having such a hobby, it is just sometimes it gets to me.... anyways good luck</p>
<p>-bix</p>
<p> After a nice of ballroom dancing alot of us are hungry and thirsty (and nicely dressed), so we go to Opah and get some snacks as well as something to drink. Anyways good luck. Alot of people tend to think of me as gay for having such a hobby, it is just sometimes it gets to me.... anyways good luck</p>
<p>-bix</p>
effenheimer_IHB
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ISM, male/female relationships exist on a continuum. They are not black-and-white affairs. I know that you can find someone who both shares your ideals and can fit within the [admittedly complex] framework that makes up your personal situation. You're smart, attractive, strong, and responsible. You'll be fine, I'm sure of it!
momopi_IHB
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Dating sites works better for people with unique requirements. I have a vegetarian female friend who went through a string of failed relationships with non-vegetarian men. She went on e-harmony.com and meet a vegetarian guy, they are now married.
If you don't have some unique condition, weird fetish, or want to meet your date dressed up like Rocky Horror Picture Show characters, it may seem very difficult to find quality dates on dating sites.
You can either take nude's advise to not try too hard and just let things come naturally, or take the hard science/statistics approach and put yourself in a position where you can meet more single women, or another location where your "market value" might be higher.
Try taking some classes at local college, where you have plenty of time to chat up your class mates. Art, tennis, pottery, dance, etc.
If you don't have some unique condition, weird fetish, or want to meet your date dressed up like Rocky Horror Picture Show characters, it may seem very difficult to find quality dates on dating sites.
You can either take nude's advise to not try too hard and just let things come naturally, or take the hard science/statistics approach and put yourself in a position where you can meet more single women, or another location where your "market value" might be higher.
Try taking some classes at local college, where you have plenty of time to chat up your class mates. Art, tennis, pottery, dance, etc.
effenheimer_IHB
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<p> I'll never look at soy milk the same way again.</p>
<p>happy hours can be good too - you bring your friends, and your friends from work bring their friends, and so on... and so on... and no explicit pressure to buy drinks... but probably hard with a kid. i do think there are advantages to just getting out and doing things you would want to do anyway to meet people with common interests (and let them know you are looking).</p>
<p>I met my mubby at a point in my life when I was coming to terms with a lot of my faults (massive thesis burnout). I met him in the personals (not the kinky section). He is a very smart musician with a GED who manages a cafe. Everyone else in my life (esp mom) was way too concerned with my thesis, but he didn't care about that. It was a refreshing change from the posing in my graduate program (architecture). Achievement and accomplishment is nifty, but the more important part is how you relate to each other - and i think that is an important example for your son too.</p>
<p>since this is a housing blog, I'll say that he already had a house, which we now live in (I'm in relatively affordable TX - have also lived in SF bay area and Minneapolis). As I lurk and watch prices there - I'm assuming no one can afford to slack there unless they have a trust fund. Is there be any arts community there to speak of?</p>
<p>PS in Minnesota common courtesy dictates that when you pass someone on the street you make eye contact and smile or otherwise acknowledge their existence. This really creeped out a friend of mine from NJ, who felt it was an invasion of her personal space. one day she was walking down the street in Mpls and didn't acknowledge a homeless woman, who then followed her down the street cursing at her. Having this woman curse at her made my friend feel better.</p>
<p>I met my mubby at a point in my life when I was coming to terms with a lot of my faults (massive thesis burnout). I met him in the personals (not the kinky section). He is a very smart musician with a GED who manages a cafe. Everyone else in my life (esp mom) was way too concerned with my thesis, but he didn't care about that. It was a refreshing change from the posing in my graduate program (architecture). Achievement and accomplishment is nifty, but the more important part is how you relate to each other - and i think that is an important example for your son too.</p>
<p>since this is a housing blog, I'll say that he already had a house, which we now live in (I'm in relatively affordable TX - have also lived in SF bay area and Minneapolis). As I lurk and watch prices there - I'm assuming no one can afford to slack there unless they have a trust fund. Is there be any arts community there to speak of?</p>
<p>PS in Minnesota common courtesy dictates that when you pass someone on the street you make eye contact and smile or otherwise acknowledge their existence. This really creeped out a friend of mine from NJ, who felt it was an invasion of her personal space. one day she was walking down the street in Mpls and didn't acknowledge a homeless woman, who then followed her down the street cursing at her. Having this woman curse at her made my friend feel better.</p>
profette_IHB
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<p>Here's the freakonomics take on the Craigslist personal ad discussed earlier in the thread:</p>
<p><a href="http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/10/09/the-economics-of-gold-digging/?mkt=opinlink3">http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/10/09/the-economics-of-gold-digging/?mkt=opinlink3</a></p>
<p><a href="http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/10/09/the-economics-of-gold-digging/?mkt=opinlink3">http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/10/09/the-economics-of-gold-digging/?mkt=opinlink3</a></p>
graphrix_IHB
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Interesting:
<em>"So maybe economists aren’t such heartless, conniving people after all. Or maybe economists just care so little about human relationships that it’s not worth the trouble to try to acquire a trophy wife."</em>
<em>"So maybe economists aren’t such heartless, conniving people after all. Or maybe economists just care so little about human relationships that it’s not worth the trouble to try to acquire a trophy wife."</em>
GavriloPrincip_IHB
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<p class="MsoNormal">Supposedly, the Craigslist “<em>Depreciating Asset</em>” shot back on October 11. The following post made the “Best of Craigslist:”
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<p class="MsoNormal"><a href="http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/445962092.html">www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/445962092.html</a></p>
Some dirty talk for finance types:
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"If your grasp of finance were not a minority partner with your ego, you would realize that the "outflows" associated with my depreciating "assets" are quite certain, and therefore subject to a low discount rate when determining their present value. In addition, though your concept of economics evidentially failed to move past the 1950s, advancement in plastic surgery is not subject to the same limitation. Thus, with some additional capital expenditure, the overall lifetime of "outflows" generated by these assets is greatly increased. Sad that Ashton Kutcher has demonstrated understanding of the female asset class which you, in all of your financial "wisdom", have not..."
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"<em>Because your outflows are so much more uncertain with respect to mine, I require additional compensation in the form of a underwater nested call option on your future assets. I say underwater because, even taking into account the value of your junk bond coupon payment to me, the value of my "outflow" is in excess of the market price of your equity...</em>"
GP
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<p class="MsoNormal"><a href="http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/445962092.html">www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/445962092.html</a></p>
Some dirty talk for finance types:
<em>
"If your grasp of finance were not a minority partner with your ego, you would realize that the "outflows" associated with my depreciating "assets" are quite certain, and therefore subject to a low discount rate when determining their present value. In addition, though your concept of economics evidentially failed to move past the 1950s, advancement in plastic surgery is not subject to the same limitation. Thus, with some additional capital expenditure, the overall lifetime of "outflows" generated by these assets is greatly increased. Sad that Ashton Kutcher has demonstrated understanding of the female asset class which you, in all of your financial "wisdom", have not..."
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"<em>Because your outflows are so much more uncertain with respect to mine, I require additional compensation in the form of a underwater nested call option on your future assets. I say underwater because, even taking into account the value of your junk bond coupon payment to me, the value of my "outflow" is in excess of the market price of your equity...</em>"
GP
IrvineCommuter_IHB
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<p>Interesting article for you happy single people.</p>
<p><a href="http://money.cnn.com/2007/10/24/pf/marriage.moneymag/index.htm?postversion=2007102506">money.cnn.com/2007/10/24/pf/marriage.moneymag/index.htm</a></p>
<p><a href="http://money.cnn.com/2007/10/24/pf/marriage.moneymag/index.htm?postversion=2007102506">money.cnn.com/2007/10/24/pf/marriage.moneymag/index.htm</a></p>
profette_IHB
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<a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/"><span style="font-size: 13px;">The Eligible-Bachelor Paradox</span></a>
How economics and game theory explain the shortage of available, appealing men.
How economics and game theory explain the shortage of available, appealing men.
Nude_IHB
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[quote author="profette" date=1208242632]<a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/"><span style="font-size: 13px;">The Eligible-Bachelor Paradox</span></a>
How economics and game theory explain the shortage of available, appealing men.</blockquote>
There is no shortage, there is simply a plethora of women who have ridiculous standards. If your idea of a perfect home is Buckingham Palace, being unable to reside there does not constitute a housing 'shortage'.
They pay people to write this crap? Really?
How economics and game theory explain the shortage of available, appealing men.</blockquote>
There is no shortage, there is simply a plethora of women who have ridiculous standards. If your idea of a perfect home is Buckingham Palace, being unable to reside there does not constitute a housing 'shortage'.
They pay people to write this crap? Really?
biscuitninja_IHB
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[quote author="profette" date=1208242632]<a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/"><span style="font-size: 13px;">The Eligible-Bachelor Paradox</span></a>
How economics and game theory explain the shortage of available, appealing men.</blockquote>
I would purpose that ALOT of women aren't very interested in nerd looking guys. Why? Maybe because our mannerisms are different, were're nice, were're thoughful and won't mistreat you. (For some reason I see way too many women with munchausen dating syndrome....).
Anyway, I think there are plenty of people out there, you just have to be open to look at everybody. Good luck
-bix
How economics and game theory explain the shortage of available, appealing men.</blockquote>
I would purpose that ALOT of women aren't very interested in nerd looking guys. Why? Maybe because our mannerisms are different, were're nice, were're thoughful and won't mistreat you. (For some reason I see way too many women with munchausen dating syndrome....).
Anyway, I think there are plenty of people out there, you just have to be open to look at everybody. Good luck
-bix