[quote author="Trooper" date=1222849531]Hi SoCal78,
I'll do my best to explain. I was raised to believe that the ultimate step you take in life, is marriage. Just because I'm gay, doesn't mean I don't want that. I do...with passion. Now if I can just find someone that will marry me !
I'm not religious, so I cannot comment about that. However, I also don't believe marriage has anything to do with g-d. I believe it's a legal contract that implies rights and responsibilities on two people. And regardless of religion...it's really got to do with being Human....not Hindu, or Catholic, etc.
If straights don't want to marry b/c they feel it's a piece of paper, then fine...but give me the right and let ME decide what's best for me and my partner.
I'll give you something quick to think about. An acquaintance of mine is a Sgt. with Phoenix P.D. She is two weeks away from retirement and just signed her separation papers today. She finally realized, that if she dies, her partner of TWELVE years will not benefit from her pension. AZ law states, "Only spouses" can benefit.
So do you see what I'm talking about ? We have to legally protect our partners so as to benefit from all that "you" do. Pension, hospital visits, inheritence, health benefits...... stop me when you understand.
Thanks for the question, hope my answer helped.
You are all welcome to PM me if you don't want to comment publicly on the blog.</blockquote>
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Troop. You are easy to talk to and I like that. I thought you could leave your inheritance to anyone you want?? Every now and then you'll even hear of someone leaving their estate to their pet (like Leona Helmsley) so I would certainly think you could choose any person you want to inherit? If (and maybe it's a big "if")... but if a domestic partnership or civil union gave you those things i.e. pension, etc (without calling it "married") then would you consider it a sufficient version of marriage for you? On the topic of healthcare - I don't know about you guys but I don't think an employer "owes it" it to anyone to pay for anyone besides the employee if it's offered (meaning the straight spouse, gay lover, children, whatever.) I think anything above and beyond the employee is generous. Some of the wealthiest couples I know are homosexuals where they are both working and raking in the money so is the partner getting benefits through their S.O.'s employer that much of a concern for them? Again, this is just for the sake of conversation. Thanks for talking with me, Troop.