Would you adopt?

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i could never adopt a kid. i couldnt raise another mans kid, not sure why, i just couldnt. i would never have gotten serious with any woman who had kids.  the only circumstance i would probably do it is if was a nephew/niece.
 
if you adopt i would adopt local. there are plenty of kids that need help. not sure why people, celebrities in particular, feel the need to adopt from oversees.
 
We would adopt locally.

We've thought about it because we've always wanted a large family. There is just the fear of the blood relatives of the adoptees and how they may throw a wrench into things. Additionally, how our own kids would deal with it.

The question is would you go younger or older than your current kids.
 
qwerty said:
if you adopt i would adopt local. there are plenty of kids that need help. not sure why people, celebrities in particular, feel the need to adopt from oversees.
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There are kids in need every where... Overseas are probably even more worse off. To each their own.
 
Great story, never really noticed Ernie much, next to Kenny/Charles/Shaq. 

I like the idea of adoption but it feels 'awkward' to me.  Like you're picking from the pet store.  Except you're changing the life of another human being, scary and too much responsibility for me to grasp.


So would you guys pick same race/ethnicity/color?  Or go extreme and get all eyes turned to you everytime your family goes shopping?
 
ps9 said:
Great story, never really noticed Ernie much, next to Kenny/Charles/Shaq. 

I like the idea of adoption but it feels 'awkward' to me.  Like you're picking from the pet store.  Except you're changing the life of another human being, scary and too much responsibility for me to grasp.


So would you guys pick same race/ethnicity/continent/hemisphere?  Or go extreme and get all eyes turned to you everytime your family goes shopping?
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Looking for a son?

 
I think I would be constantly worried that my adopted child would think I favored my own kids.  Then I would overcompensate affection to the adopted child and my kids would say they feel like I don't care about them anymore.

Maybe none of this would ever happen but I can see it being a vicious cycle.
 
@ps9 - I can see the awkward feeling and u are changing someone's life, for the better.  The responsibility is no different than raising your own child so that shouldn't factor into the equation I don't think.
 
aquabliss said:
I think I would be constantly worried that my adopted child would think I favored my own kids.  Then I would overcompensate affection to the adopted child and my kids would say they feel like I don't care about them anymore.

Maybe none of this would ever happen but I can see it being a vicious cycle.
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When I was looking into it, I read that some experts say it is important to keep the birth-order in tact. Theoretically, letting them keep their role in the family would help maintain stability. 
 
I want to adopt but my husband disagree with the idea. But after 3 unsuccessful  IVF we will do locally because I don't want to waste my money with traveling and such. I prefer my race so the baby or toddler can adopt to our culture easily.
 
irvinehomeowner said:
We would adopt locally.

We've thought about it because we've always wanted a large family.
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Wow, you must have a lot of energy. Iho, aren't you already around 50 or so?? At what age are you planning to start, or shall I say 'complete', this large family? I would imagine with spacing between adoptions you might be getting up there in years by the time the final head-count is in. My hat is off to you for such an undertaking at that age.
 
qwerty said:
i would never have gotten serious with any woman who had kids.  the only circumstance i would probably do it is if was a nephew/niece.
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Might want to re-phrase this.
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chingching said:
I want to adopt but my husband disagree with the idea. But after 3 unsuccessful  IVF we will do locally because I don't want to waste my money with traveling and such. I prefer my race so the baby or toddler can adopt to our culture easily.
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I think it's a good thing to help other people out.
 
chingching said:
I prefer my race so the baby or toddler can adopt to our culture easily.
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Seems like that would be easiest, just for simplicity's sake. For instance, I have a friend whose family is TRI-racial. She is Indian. Her husband is white. They adopted a black baby. They live in the midwest where everybody thinks she is hispanic, but still. When her father announced the birth of his new grandson, he says, "My grandson by adoption..." to explain the obvious differences between the baby and the father. It seems like the words "by adoption" are being used to pre-empt people's questions, mostly by the mother's parents. It's hard not to feel sorry for the boy since his name basically has a tagline attached to it.
 
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