<em>>>Eva, I think you misunderstood me. It was your sarcasm to which I was referring in my comment. I'm not singling you out, both sides do it. But it has the unintended side effect of making people like me, who hasn't seen Tennessee in more than 20 years and that was from a Greyhound bus, turn defensive and that never helps the conversation. I know it was intended as a justified indictment of the RNC, but it can't help but start the conversation off on the wrong foot when the goal is to get past the anger. I am as sarcastic as they come, but I don't see it as appropriate for this topic when tempers can get so hot so quickly.</em>
Nude, I can't control your feelings or prevent you from being defensive about something you haven't participated in (as best I can tell). But there are a group of people out there for whom it is outrageous that a black person would run for public office not because he/she lacks talent, passion, or good ideas, but simply because that person is black. Now <em>that</em> is an idea that I find outrageous and so contrary to my values that I will mock it to make a point. If that makes someone feel uncomfortable, then good. I want them to know that I do not buy into or implicitly condone their opinion and/or values.
Angry? I know only the cold text appears on the screen, but I'm not angry, and am surprised it came off that way. I am frustrated. How many times do we, as a society, have to go through this? We have been arguing about the full human-ness* and full participation of African Americans since the late 1700's, and yet, there is still a sizable segment of society that thinks it is ok to judge a person by their skin color. A long time ago society decided that stealing was bad and criminalized the conduct. If you thought stealing was ok, the rest of society has no problem telling you that your values are wrong. Why can't we do that with something a lot more important that things?
<p><em>It also doesn't help when people read racism into every single act or comment, as happened to Ferraro.
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<p>Have I done that? I don't think so, but if I did, please let me know. I know I didn't comment on Ferraro.
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<em>That kind of over reaching political correctness means that even making the joke about 'calling a spade a spade' off limits because someone will accuse me of being racist just for thinking it, despite it's accuracy. </em>
<p>I don't know about you, but I try my best not to hurt other people's feelings. And if using a phrase inadvertently does so, I'm happy to "call it like it is," instead. That said, I think the reactions I have received on the times I have goofed are based on the preexisting relationships I have with the person I'm talking to. Someone who knows me well would be more likely to brush it off or say "I don't know if you know, but where I'm from, that phrase has negative connotations." When someone hasn't been so charitable, <em>my </em>reaction to their reaction has been very important. And that's where I agree with you that being defensive does not help. Putting your good faith on the table and asking the person to help you understand how you have offended them does.</p>
<p><em>Personally, I'm sick of starting out with the assumption that because I am conservative I kick kittens, advocate slavery, and hate gays. </em>
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<p>You mean you don't? Nude, I know plenty of conservatives who are more liberal on social issues. Hell, I married one. But the people who stand at the megaphone and identify themselves as conservatives are the ones ruining your reputation. Maybe it's time for the more open minded conservatives (of which Bill Buckley was not a part), to stand up and challenge their brothers and sisters for the megaphone.
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<p><em>What I'd like to see is Obama be able to foster the kind of change that changes the assumption that skin color identifies you, defines your politics, or comes with a natural bias.</em></p>
While Obama can be a part of that, he can't do it on his own, and it is incumbent on each person who believes similarly to discuss that and live it everyday.
*Yeah, I know, it's not a word, but it still early as I type this, and the word I need isn't springing to mind.