Nude,
Thanks for sharing your story. I know that even in an anonymous forum like this one, revealing personal stories is not easy. If you took offense to my statements about life experiences, I apologize. They were general statements to make a point, nothing more. I'll tell you my story so you know where I am coming from.
I was raised by a single parent, and as is frequent in these cases, life was not always easy. There were times when we received private charities and government aid. My mother was always grateful, when you have next to nothing, a little help goes a long way. I can tell you that, not for a second, were we satisfied to be poor and looking around for the next handout. And every single poor person I've ever known was the same way. They wanted better for themselves and their children and worked hard to achieve that. I do very well now. I have a nice 3000+ sq ft house in a nice part of OC and I spend less than 5% of my income on housing cost. I am one of those wealthy folks that the liberals presumably rail against. I worked incredibly hard to get to where I am today, frequently putting in 100+ hr work weeks. But I also know that it wasn't just my hard work alone. I was fortunate to have won the genetic jackpot to be able to do what I do very well, I had a supportive family, mentors who I could look up to, various grants, scholarships and aids that made it possible for me get a good education, and I was born in a place and time where upward mobility is possible. I feel blessed and lucky. But I remember what it was like to be on the other end. So I give back. My wife and I give at least 15% of our income to charities annually. But I realize that I am just one person. I can give to charities till the cows come home but in order to effect lasting, fundamental changes, we have to change how the government responds to it's people. By that I mean that I want the government to be responsive to ALL its citizens. I don't want politicians to give lip service to the bulk of their constituents then turn around and serve the people from whom the next campaign dollar is most easily obtained. I want my nanny's and my boy's school teacher's voices to have as much impact as the voice of the big corporations and the wealthy. I believe if that happens, we will have a much more progressive and populist government. And issues like universal health care would be a foregone conclusion. After all, poll after poll clearly shows that significant majority of Americans are in favor of it. It seems to me that the middle class, as well as the poor has been hammered by the relative conservative policies of the last 25 years.
You accused me of cherry picking data to support my views. Of course I did. I expect you did too. We are not writing a comprehensive thesis to include both sides of the issue, we are having a debate in a limited forum. We would be foolish to include data that supported the other person's argument. I cherry picked to the extent that it was the first line of the first table that I opened in the link you provided and it conveniently seemed to support my point. In truth, I am sure that if I spent enough time on that site and other similar sites, I will found ample evidence for both sides of the argument. Not many things in life are black and white. You are obviously a bright guy, and you seems very familiar with the minutia of state of our country's welfare system. My opinions on the matter is base almost entirely on empirical evidence. And I know success and failure can be in the eye of the beholder. If you have ideas about how we can improve the system I'd like to hear it. I know there is a segment of the population where culture of poverty has gained traction and the cycle seems unbreakable. I don't have any idea how to solve that. But, I don't think giving up on them is the right solution. And I certainly don't want to penalize the folks who truly need the state's help because I can't get over the fact that we are wasting some of our money feeding this poverty cycle without a clear solution.
Anyway, best of luck to you and your family. I know all too well what it is like to have a serious medical condition in the family.