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I'll play devil's advocate. I'd probably be okay with it. I wasn't there to see it, though. It really depends on what kind of recycle bin. The small rectangular basket kind? Good enough. Large bin big enough to hold a child and she's making them stand in there? Not so much. White collared Irvine parents won't be okay with it. Blue collared families would. This was normal when I grew up (blue collared). My dad threw me into garbage bins to crawl on top and fetch an old Beta recorder, I remember (LOL), a broken fan - whatever he could fix and use. Me turned out okay
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Child safety comes first, period. CZ if you think the child's safety is being affected such as they could fall out of a bin and break an arm - say something. Or, if she is making them sort recyclables in this heat for hours, they could get heat exhaustion. If you don't think it's affecting their safety then I wouldn't say anything. You have to do what you think is best.
If you do it, please just don't leave an anonymous note. If you don't want to give your name, at least write down a non-descript e-mail address they can reach you at. I'm sure they will have further questions especially if it comes down to your word vs. the nanny's or if it risks the nanny's job. Leaving an anonymous note is creepy. And yes, I've done it twice. I wouldn't do it anonymous again. If they ask you straight-up, you'll have to decide whether to lie that it was you or not. There is a class distinction here. Please be sensitive. The nanny will be embarrassed enough as it is.
If they were your kids, you'd have some explaining to do to Mrs. zovall.
Our kids didn't have colic, but swings were magic at calming them down and even putting them to sleep. The last one we had even swung in circles I think.
This, always! Golden rule of parenting.
Whatever you habit you put to that little doll, just know that the doll grows up soon but still demand the same thing. Since my first one was a preemie, we were not allowed to "hold" the baby until till she gained weight. But when the second one was born full term, I kind of put a very bad habit of singing to her while holding her in my arms in the first month. Second month, we had a tough time breaking that habit- she wouldn't sleep till I did that bed time ritual.
socal78
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ps9 said:
I'll play devil's advocate. I'd probably be okay with it. I wasn't there to see it, though. It really depends on what kind of recycle bin. The small rectangular basket kind? Good enough. Large bin big enough to hold a child and she's making them stand in there? Not so much. White collared Irvine parents won't be okay with it. Blue collared families would. This was normal when I grew up (blue collared). My dad threw me into garbage bins to crawl on top and fetch an old Beta recorder, I remember (LOL), a broken fan - whatever he could fix and use. Me turned out okay
. Child safety comes first, period. CZ if you think the child's safety is being affected such as they could fall out of a bin and break an arm - say something. Or, if she is making them sort recyclables in this heat for hours, they could get heat exhaustion. If you don't think it's affecting their safety then I wouldn't say anything. You have to do what you think is best.
If you do it, please just don't leave an anonymous note. If you don't want to give your name, at least write down a non-descript e-mail address they can reach you at. I'm sure they will have further questions especially if it comes down to your word vs. the nanny's or if it risks the nanny's job. Leaving an anonymous note is creepy. And yes, I've done it twice. I wouldn't do it anonymous again. If they ask you straight-up, you'll have to decide whether to lie that it was you or not. There is a class distinction here. Please be sensitive. The nanny will be embarrassed enough as it is.
irvinehomeowner
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I say shake down the nanny and threaten to report her if she doesn't give you half the recycling cash.
You can start your own nanny/kiddy/recycling ring!
You can start your own nanny/kiddy/recycling ring!
ps99472
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These are the big WM size bins, the same size as the regular trash but with a gray lid, so does the nanny dump the kid into the bin to pick out cans? If that's the case, notify the parents right away. If its just the nanny digging for cans.....I would still notify the parents due to sanitary reasons..and if her head is deep in the trash, who's watching the kids?
irvinerealtor
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zovall said:
If they were your kids, you'd have some explaining to do to Mrs. zovall.
ps99472
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Spent our Turkey Day at the ER with our little one throwing up left and right (stomach flu bug) and not being able to even keep water down. Here's what I learned from the ordeal..
1. Do NOT give milk (no matter how much they beg)
2. Put heavy absorbent towels on couch if you put a pukey child there (also a towel on the car seat if you pick up a pukey child from school)
3. Buckets everywhere to catch puke
4. Red Gatorade is not smart.. go with clear or at least the yellow one
5. Portion control, your little one is probably dehydrated and wants to drink drink drink, but you need to control the rate, their little stomachs can't stomach a binge of fluids.. start with 2 oz and work your way up.
6. CHOC/St. Joseph's ER is dedicated to pediatric patients.. they know how to interact with your little one, drive the extra 5 minutes and go there.
7. Careful with in-laws who want to stop by and help.. multiple stressed out opinions and a sick child don't mix well
8. Resolve Multi-Fabric works great for microfiber, Resolve triple oxy carpet is obviously great for carpet
9. Get TWO water proof mattress pads for your kid
1. Do NOT give milk (no matter how much they beg)
2. Put heavy absorbent towels on couch if you put a pukey child there (also a towel on the car seat if you pick up a pukey child from school)
3. Buckets everywhere to catch puke
4. Red Gatorade is not smart.. go with clear or at least the yellow one
5. Portion control, your little one is probably dehydrated and wants to drink drink drink, but you need to control the rate, their little stomachs can't stomach a binge of fluids.. start with 2 oz and work your way up.
6. CHOC/St. Joseph's ER is dedicated to pediatric patients.. they know how to interact with your little one, drive the extra 5 minutes and go there.
7. Careful with in-laws who want to stop by and help.. multiple stressed out opinions and a sick child don't mix well
8. Resolve Multi-Fabric works great for microfiber, Resolve triple oxy carpet is obviously great for carpet
9. Get TWO water proof mattress pads for your kid
irvinehomeowner
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Sorry to hear about your kid PS9, but it seems like a stomach bug is going around. There were a few no-shows at our various family parties due to something like that... and not just children.
ps99472
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They took us in pretty quick, waited maybe 30 minutes from walking in to see doctor. They gave her Zofran, and then some pedialyte, waited to see if she can stomach that, total about 3 hrs. They provided toys which really helped with the wait with a sick child. Free valet as well.
cubiczirconia
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Stomach flu? We are just past the phase where we would be throwing bedsheets in the washer and cleaning up the carpet at midnight. It's hard with little children. One more tip.. add a little salt and sugar to the water. Helps. I also give 'cubed sugar' to suck on.
nosuchreality
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Firstly, congratulations. With a 2yr old now, this is what I've learned the hard and not hard way.
First things first. Go test fit the car seat and stroller in your vehicles. Do it well before baby comes. Our little guy decided to come a month early. How the seat fits, how you fit when the seat is in the car, getting the stroller in. And go give it a test or two in a parking lot.
Aiden and Andi (sp?) swaddling blankets. They are the swaddle blanket. Bigger and clingy, the wrap and keep houdini burritoized.
A co-sleeper for the first couple months. We had an Arms Reach co-sleeper that you anchor with straps to your bed. The first 2-3 months with the feedings every two hours, massive time savings.
And, do not change the diaper in the midnight feedings unless you really need to. Diapering wakes baby up. AWAKE, up.
A red night light. I actually colored in the light shield on ours. Learn to diaper and feed in the light of the night light.
When our boy had colic, the swing was our friend. Our boy liked going side to side and not front to back.
Baby Monitors. I rarely recommend made in china items, but Zopid makes a baby monitor available from Amazon. It has the best feature that we haven't found on any other monitors. It has a sound level indicator that works with the sound off. As your child gets older you'll eventually need to let them cry for a while, being able to watch, and know how upset the baby/toddler is without having to hear it may help you through.
As for Choc and St. Joseph ER. Learn your routes. We've never been there, but been to different ERs three times in two years. And regular ERs just don't know infants/toddlers.
Your after hour Dr. number is nice too.
The stroller. Our Chico Cortina is easy to use, indestructible, has good storage and collapses easily to load in the car.
A small diaper clutch and small food bag. Yes, they fit in the stroller. Those big bags don't. Hanging things on a stroller makes them tippy.
Double power sliding automatic doors. Seriously, SUVs aren't chic and cool anyway.
First things first. Go test fit the car seat and stroller in your vehicles. Do it well before baby comes. Our little guy decided to come a month early. How the seat fits, how you fit when the seat is in the car, getting the stroller in. And go give it a test or two in a parking lot.
Aiden and Andi (sp?) swaddling blankets. They are the swaddle blanket. Bigger and clingy, the wrap and keep houdini burritoized.
A co-sleeper for the first couple months. We had an Arms Reach co-sleeper that you anchor with straps to your bed. The first 2-3 months with the feedings every two hours, massive time savings.
And, do not change the diaper in the midnight feedings unless you really need to. Diapering wakes baby up. AWAKE, up.
A red night light. I actually colored in the light shield on ours. Learn to diaper and feed in the light of the night light.
When our boy had colic, the swing was our friend. Our boy liked going side to side and not front to back.
Baby Monitors. I rarely recommend made in china items, but Zopid makes a baby monitor available from Amazon. It has the best feature that we haven't found on any other monitors. It has a sound level indicator that works with the sound off. As your child gets older you'll eventually need to let them cry for a while, being able to watch, and know how upset the baby/toddler is without having to hear it may help you through.
As for Choc and St. Joseph ER. Learn your routes. We've never been there, but been to different ERs three times in two years. And regular ERs just don't know infants/toddlers.
Your after hour Dr. number is nice too.
The stroller. Our Chico Cortina is easy to use, indestructible, has good storage and collapses easily to load in the car.
A small diaper clutch and small food bag. Yes, they fit in the stroller. Those big bags don't. Hanging things on a stroller makes them tippy.
Double power sliding automatic doors. Seriously, SUVs aren't chic and cool anyway.
irvinehomeowner
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+1nosuchreality said:
Our kids didn't have colic, but swings were magic at calming them down and even putting them to sleep. The last one we had even swung in circles I think.
nosuchreality
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Oh, one more.
Going to bed later equals getting up earlier.
Seems counter intuitive and every baby will have their own rhythms, but less sleep begets even less sleep.
If you try moving your infants sleep time back in order to get them to sleep a little later in the morning and find the baby wakes more or wakes earlier, you actually moved the sleep time the wrong way.
Our night time sleeping was pushing 9PM and waking at 4 or 5AM with multiple fussy wake ups throughout the night when after reading a sleep book, we pushed it forward to 7AM, viola, started sleeping through to 6AM. then 6:30. then 7:00. Were now at 8PM and usually sleeping til 7:30 or 8AM.
The first two years of sleep set up lifetime sleep habits. Much like the first two years of eating.
For a second thing, a schedule is your infant and toddlers friend. Nap time is nap time, bed time is bed time. Mess with them, pay the price.
Finally, learn your infants rhythms. If baby wants to get up a 6AM they're getting up. Whomever is better at getting up at 6AM should be the one getting up to be with them.
And my last one, (I promise), whatever decision either parent makes when the other isn't there is ALWAYS the right one at the time.
Going to bed later equals getting up earlier.
Seems counter intuitive and every baby will have their own rhythms, but less sleep begets even less sleep.
If you try moving your infants sleep time back in order to get them to sleep a little later in the morning and find the baby wakes more or wakes earlier, you actually moved the sleep time the wrong way.
Our night time sleeping was pushing 9PM and waking at 4 or 5AM with multiple fussy wake ups throughout the night when after reading a sleep book, we pushed it forward to 7AM, viola, started sleeping through to 6AM. then 6:30. then 7:00. Were now at 8PM and usually sleeping til 7:30 or 8AM.
The first two years of sleep set up lifetime sleep habits. Much like the first two years of eating.
For a second thing, a schedule is your infant and toddlers friend. Nap time is nap time, bed time is bed time. Mess with them, pay the price.
Finally, learn your infants rhythms. If baby wants to get up a 6AM they're getting up. Whomever is better at getting up at 6AM should be the one getting up to be with them.
And my last one, (I promise), whatever decision either parent makes when the other isn't there is ALWAYS the right one at the time.
cubiczirconia
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nosuchreality said:And my last one, (I promise), whatever decision either parent makes when the other isn't there is ALWAYS the right one at the time.
This, always! Golden rule of parenting.
Whatever you habit you put to that little doll, just know that the doll grows up soon but still demand the same thing. Since my first one was a preemie, we were not allowed to "hold" the baby until till she gained weight. But when the second one was born full term, I kind of put a very bad habit of singing to her while holding her in my arms in the first month. Second month, we had a tough time breaking that habit- she wouldn't sleep till I did that bed time ritual.