I heart my pastor-Dave Gibbons Newsong-series "The Burbs"

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Sorry guys, been a busy week.  The church hasn?t been updating the sermon video as quickly lately.  We are about two weeks behind now.  Last week we had a guest speaker Alex Gee; where he focused specifically on Apathy alone.

Apathy is why Dave considers the Burbs a dangerous place.  I can certainly attest to this and most of you in Irvine probably know what I?m talking about.  It is so easy to be alone; it is after-all our natural tendency; and what the culture tell us.  We are to be self-independent, ruggedly alone, financially solvent; that is the American dream.  It is so easy to just focus on ME, my needs, desires, wants and our surroundings cater to this.  A lot of the ugliness of society; are filtered out in the Burbs.  We don?t have to be uncomfortable; our days can be lounged by the pool side; talking about the same old superficial things.  People are afraid to get messy with feelings, sharing deeper needs, desires and meaningful life purpose and being involved in a greater cause than just figuring out what to do on our next vacation, where to go for good pasta or day-care.

Alex share a few points on why we are Apathic; I didn?t take notes, but I remember a few of them are; that we are trying to run away from our past.  If we grew up poor or had very little growing up; we tend to drive ourselves to not be in the same position later in life.  Like I said, the world is full of pain and suffering; and we don?t have to look hard to find it, but we like our gates communities and cul-de-sacs so that we don?t have to be expose to it; out of sight out of mind; if we don?t see the ugliness then I don?t have to do something about it.  And Alex brings up being afraid of getting involved; being accountable, letting people in and getting messy with relationships.

If you guys know me; you know Dave?s heart.  All the things I?ve been writing about for the past few years have all came from Dave in one form or another.  That is why I always talk about finding genuine community and relationships.  It is within a relationship with God that I am able to love others that cross my path everyday.  And it is within relationship with others that I have found the fingerprints of God all around me; it is where I find His power, his healing, his mercy and grace.  That is why when I self-isolate, I get all weird out and I forget how miserable I can get when it?s just all about me?
 
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The video from Today's sermon, Little Boxes...  we live in our little boxes, get into our little boxes, and our kids get educated in little boxes... ticky-tacky... they all come out the same...!
 
roundcorners said:
we live in our little boxes, get into our little boxes, and our kids get educated in little boxes... ticky-tacky... they all come out the same...!

So what's the alternative, no shelter, no transportation, no schools.  There would be no cities everyone would live as nomads.
 
Communitas

Test? great question, starting this week Dave is starting to unpack some solutions.  I love the word he uses; Communitas (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Communitas); ooh, I?m adding this to my Word dictionary!  I?ve written about intentional community before; again it is our societal default that we live alone; so we have to be intentional about relationships.

Test, remember when you were in elementary school?  How did you make friends?  The first kid who had the same brand surfing t-shirt automatically became your best friend.  Why was that?  Well maybe that is because you and your friend knew to get through elementary school you would need a friend and band together.  What has changed 30 years after?  Sure you might be married now, maybe with kids, a career and adult responsibilities but what really has changed?  So you might have a distrust for new relationships; someone might have hurt you deeply; a betrayal of some sort.  Maybe you don?t have time.  But I implore you, you need good friends now; or should I say fellow souljourners or a band of brothers now more thane ever in your life because your wife, kids and family depend on it!

Now Communitas WILL look different to everybody here.  There is no one way or formula that fits all.  I can?t tell what will work for me will be the same for you; even if we live down the street.  I guess Dave would say, Communitas is not where you live, it is a mindset.  You can find it in Irvine, or even in Woodbury.  Believe me; the wife and I have been diligently seeking it in Woodbury for the past 2 years but we have not found it.  But that does not mean that it doesn?t exist here; it just means we have to look elsewhere.  Now Pat might be right, there would probably be more of a chance we can find it here, a few years down the road and if we become homeowners here; but I believe we reached a point of diminishing returns here.  The relationships we have formed here will continue; sad to say, they don?t take much effort.

Dave had two congregational members gave a testimony today of what Communitas looks like to them; I won?t spoil it!  But I?ll give a clearer realistic vision of what it looks like for the RC family?  I?ll share it later? gotta brush my teeth and get to bed!
 
rc I agree completely that it is about mindset and not physical location.  American culture in general values privacy and independence, it is not confined to Irvine or the burbs.
 
Glenn Beck did a follow up to his China episode and said Chinese workers all work, live, eat, shop in the same building.  It's like one giant factory/dorm/cafeteria/mall.  Communism here we come!
 
Starlight East said:
RC, it would be a great social experiment when you could get 6 families from various social and racial background to buy a 6 bedroom house together and share kitchen, living room, cars etc.

I envision doctors from Newport Beach, teachers from Tustin, engineers from Irvine, artists from Costa Mesa, accountants from Porter Ranch, gardeners from Santa Ana etc. all under one roof. Here you would have your Communitas.

Probably not easy to get a loan for this kind of arrangement unless the doctors from Newport Beach donate a large amount of down payment.

I am a little bit skeptical (as it is against our nature), but I can see the potential.

Star... did you attend church Sunday?  Believe it or not, that is what Dave recommended...!  He would actually like to see families share a house-hold...  He loves the my idea of the LB 4-Plex Co-House...!  If I actually get it going, I might one day get up and share the experience on Sunday!

I'm actually compiling some realistic approaches the RC family can take this year to move toward Communitas... some facets include, health-care, groceries, meals, child-care, entertainment, transportation...

I've also found kindred spirits from the Transition Town Movement; with people who are looking to the immediate community to meet most or all of our daily wants & needs; in the instance of Peak Oil...http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transition_Towns
if you build a resilient neighborhood, the best case scenario is that you survive $20/gallon gasoline while the rest of the city riots and starves in chaos, and the worst case scenario you build Communitas...  Take a guess, how Irvine will do if Peak Oil hits Woodbury...  let's just say I would hate to be here when that happens...

There is so much to write & share, so little time...  Don't do life alone people...!
 
Starlight East said:
roundcorners said:
Star... did you attend church Sunday?  Believe it or not, that is what Dave recommended...!  He would actually like to see families share a house-hold...  He loves the my idea of the LB 4-Plex Co-House...! 

I didn't attend but from your previous posts I knew you would love the house sharing.

When you want to build a resilent community, you sure have a lot of work ahead of you.

Star... if I were you, I would start making a mental note of every; avocado, orange, fruit tree around town...  (hint: check out the Katie Wheeler library lot...)

you might be eating a lot guacamole and drinking orange juice if food lines get cut-off, and a semi martial law is imposed but at least you will survive...

I know you probably can't grow much fruit or vegetables on your side concrete patio but try... by the time the HOA approves the use of the pocket-parks and common lawns to plant fruit trees and vegetable gardens half of your neighbors will probably not make it, well unless they have small to medium size pets...

you think at that point your neighbors would finally reach out and say hi?
 
finally got some time to listen to the sermon again...
http://irvine.newsong.net/- Jan 23rd
at around 38 minutes 50 seconds, Dave spoke of early American settlers who were called to "Go West, Young Man!"  These settlers moved across the country, staked out a piece of land; live independently, the American Dream, build fences and build the house right in middle of their land...

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But what they found was how hard life was; how harsh the winters and seasons were alone...  They had to do life differently, what they came up with was to move their homes closer to each other...

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By living closet to each other, the people thrived; better able to survive harsh elements, sicknesses and challenges, they diversify foods and resources and shared them with each other...  What they found out was that:  Sorrow share was only half a sorrow; however Joy shared is double the Happiness...

Fast forward to today...
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that American dream of living independently is still alive and well, it's just sad that we practically live on top of each other physically but inside, we live miles apart from one another, emotionally, mentally, spiritually...  We still need that gated community around the neighborhood; we need that fence that divide our houses, we need our little hedges to protect our little piece of grass and we need our own rooms, doors to protect our own privacy...

We live the American Dream of independence, being alone, being by yourself, and we'll carry this attitude from our homes to retirement homes to convalescence homes where we'll spend the last days our our lives watching television by ourselves, playing solitaire by ourselves and mumbling quietly to ourselves...
 
That top photo actually looks like a pretty nice neighborhood.  Obviously no where near California considering the lot size.
 
Alright folks... here are some updates...
http://media.newsong.net/

Jan 30th - Shane Clairborne - talk about living (ordinary) radical in the OC...
You guys have to check out the Video at 29 minutes 25 seconds... the story of Mark Weaver!!!  T-CPA,, is that you?? HAHA...  realy a touching story of one ordinary OC fella...

Last week Fed 6th - Chris Seay - talked about yes... folks.. Consumerism

really quick RC anecdote... on Sunday... after the sermon, the RC family actually hit up not only the South Cost Plaza but the Specturm... here is the other side of the story... the wife has been waiting and saving her lunch money for new running shoes for the past 6 months!!!  She even used a Macy's gift card, a sale and found an additional 20% off... she has been eyeing the shoe for the past 3 weeks, going to both Spectrum, online and now SCP... she finally bought the darn shoes and only paid $10 for $110 shoes!!  That is consumerism in the RC family...!
 
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