Expat Observations from a world traveler 2006 (WARNING: OT & Long)

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Friday, November 03, 2006

Free Speech vs. Common Decency



As the government of Kazakhstan is hating Borat more and more for making a movie and TV series in which their country is shown to be a backward East European backwater and a poor Third World jumping off place, and in the aftermath of the cartoon riots, many Muslims around the world are steel reeling under the weight of the controversy, many Western media leaders are citing the right of free speech in their defense.



Many are saying that a movie is not real life, and a cartoon is just a cartoon. However, how do you know about the effects that such movies or cartoons will have on people in real lives? People?s reputations can be ruined. They can be mocked. They can be refused jobs and apartments. They will be shut out of social lives. It?s been known to happen. Who is reading such newspapers or watching such movies? It is mostly working-class people the majority of whom aren?t that sophisticated and who, while realizing that a movie was made at a studio, will still form harmful subliminal associations in their minds which in the future will only increase bigotry and discrimination against various groups. So, while free speech is allowing you to make funny movies and caricatures, keep in mind that you are harming many people?s lives in the process.



I keep hearing things like- well, most people know it is really nothing serious, just a parody. But most people, even in the West are not necessarily open-minded, international, politically correct PhD holders with majors in Intercultural Communications. Landlords and employers are watching such movies and seeing such cartoons. And next time a Muslim or a Kazakh comes to apply for a job or to rent living space, they stand a bigger chance of being rejected than before such things have been put into the organs of the media. In social situations people will be ridiculed- "Hey, I saw a show about Kazakhstan- it looks like a very poor, third world dung hole (Kazakhstan is an oil rich country that is almost on par with Brazil in GDP. A normal middle-income country, that's what it is.) I have even seen comments on the Internet stating that Kazakhstan was a ?small? Third World country- hey, when was the last time you looked at the world map-the country is about the size of the entire Western Europe!



Such irresponsible journalism and movie making is creating a very harmful effect. Think about one thing, for example: it is called "word association". People are asked to give the first other word that comes to mind when a certain word is uttered. Teachers in classrooms would give an exercise to students quite often when I was younger. Say the first word that comes to mind if I say ?Italy?, for example. What are you going to say if you have been seeing movies on TV that show Leonardo Da Vinci and Michelangelo? You will probably say ?Art?. If you always see articles about Italian food, you will think of spaghetti and pizza. However, if the media keep churning out one movie about Mafia after another, you will associate Italy with Mafia. So, next time an Italian applies for a job, even if you are an open minded person, such an association will flash through your mind. Now, what will happen if you are not an open-minded person but just an average Joe? Most probably you will transfer these associations into your dealings with that person. You may, if angry, call him names and defame him. He may even be passed for a promotion and refused various social interactions.



In such a way, organs of the media are, with total impunity, sowing seeds of poison by planning one negative stereotype after another in the common people?s minds.

Granted, Italians are now quite well accepted in America, or other ?Anglo-Saxon? countries, but the media, under the umbrella of ?free speech? still keeps slandering other groups while arguing that they have the right to do it, and ?it is just a movie?. However, by constantly portraying other groups in a negative or ludicrous light they besmirch the reputation of such groups and destroy their right to live with dignity and self-respect. This way, a Kazakh will become associated with a ?poor, third world fool? and a Muslim with terrorism. Then, people will start reporting more cases of work-place harassment, losses of friendship and rejections of all kinds in society. Or most noticeably, as a member of such groups, one will simply not be respected. Sure, there will be some very cosmopolitan individuals who will not form such stereotypes, but how about store owners? Hotel owners? Supervisors at work? Friends? Neighbors? Who are they going to treat members of such groups after the nearly hypnotic associations of such groups with various contemptful and negative things have been inserted into people?s minds?



Media should not take the very sacred right of free speech as a license to slander entire groups and, in process, virtually ruin their lives. Free speech is there to expose true evil, not sow tribal scorn and hatred. So, please have some decency, media people. We cannot legislate decency, only suggest it to you. Think about all those who may be affected by your gross and false generalizations and by the associations you are repeatedly inserting into the minds of the common working public worldwide in the name of 'free speech' and the Almighty Dollar.
 
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Thursday, December 14, 2006

Praise When Bad, Putdown When Better



When studying a foreign language you will notice an interesting phenomenon- people in the countries you are living in now will immediately comment on how well you speak it. You may be saying a few phrases but some will even start jumping up and down and clapping their hands in delight. Especially, if you are in an Asian country.



The fact that a rich foreigner like you is taking time to learn the language is truly a miracle. You deserve to be praised. However, as your study gets deeper and deeper, and your command of the language improves, the praises become fewer and fewer until a day arrives when people start telling you that you speak the language badly and even make fun of your pronunciation.



Now, they are no longer comparing you to other foreigners who are not learning the language, to native speakers, such as themselves and, compared to those, you still sound like a mental retard. Hence, the giggles and frowns, grimaces and put downs.



Take heart! That type of behaviour indicates that your language is, in fact, getting better. Keep learning. Get as many materials with dialogues in that language as you can and practice the dialogues by yourself. You will soon be fluent. When people stop making any kind of comments about your language, be they good or bad, and just talk to you normally, that means that you have really mastered it.
 
Avoiding PC Restrictions



Political Correctness has stifled free speech in so many ways that we have to be so careful nowadays about not using the wrong term to designate another person and consequently, get yelled at, make an enemy, get fired, get sued, etc.



However, as I have mentioned in some of my writing before, PC thought mainly controls the English language only and by osmosis, it seeps a bit into Spanish, French and maybe, German.



However, the invisible ?language police? can be avoided by learning, another, preferably a non-mainstream language, and using it freely. Granted, other languages also have restrictions such as one should not use bad words against some remote ethnic group of theirs, or insult their King or their religion but if you are mainly concerned about being restricted in your speech in the West, they can be a useful addition to your arsenal of freedom in our unfree society.



Spanish can help you if people cringe at your use of the word ?Oriental?. In Spanish it is not offensive. The cognates of many other taboo English words in Spanish are not insulting at all. I cannot mention them here because I am writing in English, but it is up for you to find out what they are.



The modern PC Language Gestapo has one Achilles?s Heel- as most people in any Anglo-Saxon country, they are by and large, monolingual. They will tune out if you speak another language. So speak another language and have fun. Re-taste that freedom.



But you need to choose wisely. Spanish is still a bit mainstream, but even then, whenever I felt an urge to say, cuss, I did so in Spanish where there were no Spanish speakers around. It would still be better to learn some lesser popular language. Few people speak Thai, and while in Thailand, calling someone an iguana is a horrible insult, saying the word ?Oriental? in its Thai equivalent is a thing of pride. Because their PC is different from ours, we can now engage in discussing our non-allowable topics in their terms. Just as long as you do not talk about iguanas.



Japanese is another low-PC language and as long as you do not insult the Emperor you can use all the un-PC terms in America when you switch to Japanese. Beyond that, try languages such as Slovak and Hungarian and learn them well. Then, enjoy.



That is freedom. Just learn it well, gather a group of people that speaks your new language and let the Freedom rip!
 
Yank vs. Yankee



Many British use the word ?Yank? to refer to Americans. Some Americans, most notably those who are not of the New England pre-revolutionary heritage, take umbrage to that. However, it needs to be clarified that the British (and consequently Irish/Australian (and NZ?) term ?Yank? is not the same as the term ?Yankee?. Actually, most British and their colonial subjects almost never use ?Yankee? at all.



?Yank? means a person who is either a US citizen by birth or naturalization, or anyone who has spent significant time in the US and who displays American cultural characteristics that are obvious to the British, the Irish, Aus, (and New Zealanders?)



Sometimes, because of the predilection of many Brits for rhyming slang, an American (or anyone who has spent time in America) is called a Plank (Yank- Plank), or by another derivative- ?Planker?. Examples- ?He is a Plank, a plain Yank?. Or ? ?A bunch of Plankers came to look at the castle yesterday?.



Most often the term is used neutrally and endearingly, but rarely as a pejorative. One should not get offended. However, when someone calls a Texan a Yankee, you can let them have a piece of your mind. But this is very unlikely to be coming from the nations that are comfortable with ?Yank?.
 
Monday, December 04, 2006

Disappearing Russian Restaurants



I am in Dubai walking down the street. Suddenly, I see a sign in Cyrillic- Russkaya Kuhnya?- Russian Cuisine. I love Russian cuisine and I walk in, in anticipation of borscht, pelmeni, stuffed goose and other delicacies. I am met by an Indian gentleman who gives me the menu- curry, masala, shawarma, Indian bread, falafel and kapsa.WTF? I am here to get Russian food and you have just enticed me with false advertising to another typical Gulf restaurant. I storm out in disgust.



I see another Russian Cuisine sign down the road. I walk in again and again find the same thing- this time it is an Iranian man who brings me the menu- again, it is basmati rice, shawarma, shish-kebab, hummus, etc. Is this some kind of joke? This ain?t Russian food! I get angry at him for the fake sign. He lashes out at me with double anger. Hey, watch it! I am the customer here. I pay your salary. Again, I storm out.



I am in Bahrain. There is a huge sign in neon -Russian Restaurant. I walk in to find a big place with nothing Russian in it. The place is full of Indian cooks and waitresses and again they give me a full Indian menu- masala, curry, naan, etc. WTF!!!Why did you call your restaurant Russian? Oh, well, it is because we have Russian salad here. Huh?



This is insane. OK, let me try the Russian salad. What? It has pineapple? Where would the Russians get pineapples from? It should have potatoes.

I guess in these countries they do not have laws against false advertising and they are not taught that customers should not be deceived. If you become indignant with such devious attitudes towards putting signs on business that purport to provide certain type of food and then, they do not, the people there get angry with YOU!



Next time you see a Cyrillic sign in the Gulf, walk on by. Unless of course, you want a traditional Middle eastern/Indian meal.
 
Yet More Misc. Notes



Financial Free Fall



When you go from a rich country like Saudi Arabia to a poorer one like Indonesia with pockets full of hard currency, your financial state can be compared to a weightless free fall. You just keep falling down the money space- the chute of dimensions in which you can now move freely without thinking for a relatively long time about how long it will take for you to land on earth and awaken with a jolt. Just like in a free fall where there is sufficient distance for you to enjoy your complete freedom of movement without any restraints. Oh what a feeling to enjoy for a month or two!



***Instead of trying to learn a conventional and well-known language or culture, it will be very rewarding if you learn a more remote language and devote yourself to a more exotic culture. Why not learn Telugu or say, a minority language such as Cebuano. You will be worshipped by the natives if you dedicate yourself to integrating into a society that is not main-stream.



Amores de Lejos, Amores de Pendejos?



This famous Spanish proverb literally translates as ?Loves from Afar are Loves of Fools?- that is basically that long distance relationships do not work. I beg to disagree. Of course, relationships with people near you are far better, but sometimes you can?t help but be separated. You can get drafted into the army, or be sent somewhere by a company, or meet someone online that is in a faraway land. There are millions of reasons for long distance relationships to occur. In the old times, with expensive phone calls and letters that would take weeks, it was no surprise that such relationships would often fail as people would get sick and tired of being drawn so much apart and the uncertainty that it brought with it. Truly, love from afar was fools? love not so long ago.



Not anymore. We now have instant SMS, chatting in real time and very inexpensive phone providers that allow you to make calls across the world for pennies. We now have web cams and your lover can come online and chat with you. Granted you cannot touch him/her physically, but the technology that we have now sure beats those long waits for letters by the mailbox, and once a month phone calls.

Also with a much better social acceptance of personal ads than before these are no longer just for the most desperate. And with hundreds of thousands of people in poorer countries looking for a mate in richer ones, it is becoming more and more commonplace year after year. Now, many relationships begin as long distance ones and become ?short-distance? after some time. Many dates now begin in cyber space and end in real life situations.



The used to tell us that one should not look for love but let it land on his/her shoulders like a white dove because if you look for it, it will allegedly run away from you. Well, a lot of people look for it and yes, it does not come; then they stop looking for it and again, it does not come. So what?s the deal? Then, people stopped taking chances with the white dove theory and they now trust the law of averages/probabilities much more. Many get online, meet lots of people electronically from all over the world and, then, they go ahead and meet them physically thus creating their own destiny and not waiting for things to happen.



Long distance love today is doing quite well and almost as good (if not better) than the short distance love, especially if one plays international and not just domestic markets. And you should see some gorgeous people that one can meet.



Long Distance Loves are not Fools? Loves anymore. They are, actually, smart people?s loves.



Friendly Asian Immigrants in NZ and Oz.



Frankly I never felt welcome by Asian immigrants in the US, especially in places such as NY or LA. I would go into a Korean store and the vibes I would get from people would range from sulkiness to downright hostile looks and rudeness. I would not blame them. Many of them would get hassled a lot by non ?Asians and threatened and all. So, some had to toughen up to strangers who do not look Asian.



You walk into a Korean convenience store in LA and the owner is looking at you from behind the bullet-proof glass with the facial expression reminiscent of a bulldog about to attack. Too bad, really. In some Chinese restaurants you get sarcastic looks from people. Some would refuse to speak to you in Asian languages if you start a conversation in those. It is a pity because I like Asian people and Asian food and like to make friends with them.



This is why I was surprised during my trip to the Antipodes(*) this past summer. I walked into Korean restaurants only to be greeted by smiles and warmth coming from the owners. I would again go inside Korean stores crouching instinctively in expectations of angry and haughty looks coming from them, but would be again greeted with warm smiles and open arms. Their English is fluent and they are just so happy to see you! I walked into a Japanese restaurant and addressed the people there in Japanese. They answered me in Japanese and even sat next to me and talked to me as if I was Japanese myself. Incredible! So different from the so many unfriendly Asians back home.



So, what?s the deal? Well, for one thing, only Asians with means are allowed in those places. And only if they speak English. If you are poor and do not speak English, you are not allowed in. Second- no guns. They do not have the experience of armed people walking into their stores and robbing them at gun point. Other Asians who patronize their stores are also well off and do not have problems with the native population as poor people normally would, so no bad news and no harsh warnings are given from one Asian to another. There is also no big pressure to melt into the local meting pots- most people are just into business and making money at it.



So, is everything good then in the Antipodes? Well, yes, for those with money or special skills. But if you do not have those and are Asian, the US will afford better opportunities and you will be able to rise from the bottom, not just start in the middle. You will learn to growl at whites and blacks in the process, and be cynical and hostile and rude at them to survive but you will have many more opportunities if you are less than what NZ and Oz want you to be- rich, English speaking, clean-cut model immigrant. If you are like that, head for Auckland or Melbourne; for all the rest, there is always the good old USA.





*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antipodes



<em>In the British Isles, "The Antipodes" is sometimes used to refer to Australia and New Zealand, and "Antipodeans" to their inhabitants.[3] By contrast, under the geographical definition, the antipodes of the British Isles are in the Pacific Ocean, south of New Zealand. The antipodes of Australia are in the North Atlantic Ocean, while parts of Spain, Portugal, and Morocco are antipodal to New Zealand.</em>





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