Day Trips

[irvinehomeowner]

I'm confused, is your spouse going? If not, I don't see why you would engage in conversation with her as there are tons of artists at the event.

If he is going, than this conversation should be had with him... not us.

Thanks for being so helpful.

My question still stands, is your spouse going or not? That's important to how your predicament can be answered.

You said you would have to drop your last name and show her your ring so that makes me think that your husband will not be there. If that's the case, then my answer is the same as traceimage's, just avoid her.

If he is going, than you should discuss this with him as I would imagine he would have to introduce you to her properly if he is going to talk to her.

 

[socal78]

I would just not make conversation. I've never been to the Sawdust Festival, but I assume you don't have to interact with all the artists, right? I would just avoid her booth. Unless your husband is planning on talking to her?

Did they have a particularly nasty or juicy breakup? If so, share details! 

Not realy sure how many artists are there. Likewise, I've never been. Hopefully, it's very easy to get lost in the crowd but I just don't know.

Ok, juicy details...  Yeah, it was nasty on her part. She acknowledged that by eventually calling him to apologize for everything she had done & all pain inflicted (which I do give her some credit for). Wish I could share the details. I'll sum it up by saying -- When I asked Mr. SoCal how this should go down, he said, "She can't keep track of all the men she's been with. So, she probably won't recognize me anyway."

I have never met any of the exes before. I am uncomfortable with the idea. I definitely don't know how I would react if confronted with her even unintentionally if I don't recognize her at first, which is quite possible. It is water under the bridge but whether it's right or wrong - I can't help that it does stir up "certain" emotions in me. That is what it means to be human. Mr. SoCal is a far more gracious person than I am. He suggests I be "friendly"... while he runs away. Hah, right. I doubt I will muster up friendliness. Civil, maybe.

 

[socal78]

My question still stands, is your spouse going or not? That's important to how your predicament can be answered.

You said you would have to drop your last name and show her your ring so that makes me think that your husband will not be there. If that's the case, then my answer is the same as traceimage's, just avoid her.

If he is going, than you should discuss this with him as I would imagine he would have to introduce you to her properly if he is going to talk to her.

He will be going to the festival. How close he will be sticking while we browse, I don't know. He tends to lag behind. I would probably run into her before he does but he wouldn't be far behind unless he's serious about running away if he sees her.

Iho, I did discuss it with him. Of course, I try to be considerate by asking his feelings on the matter. However, he never gives a straight answer on anything. He basically says do whatever you want to do. He suggested being friendly but also entertained the other options as well like some of the ones I've written here (and others more fun but much less serious. Use your imagination.)