Clearly some folks who have responded don't go out much.
If you're trying to just find some great local, LOW KEY bars, I'd suggest Newport Beach. Malarky's, Muldoons, Stag Bar - and there's a place down the street from Malarky's but I can't think of the name. GThere's Classic Q's on MacArthur is also a decent spot if you just want to play some pool and drink. The girls? Ehh...
"Ultra-Lounge" OC Style - pick up a copy of 944 magazine and go to one of those places. It might help if you can get yourself on a guest list. There are places like Fury, Tentation at Ten Sushi restaurant), Chimera, Sutra (Triangle Square - Costa Mesa).
Go on www.yelp.com to see what people had to say.