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[quote author="CalGal" date=1216866180][quote author="irvinesinglemom" date=1216811128]I've said this before and I'll say it again. I live in Irvine and my personal experience with my many Asian neighbors is that most of them are married couples with kids who seem very uncomfortable with my "lifestyle" as a single mother. It's like they think my condition is contagious. Most of them won't even make eye contact with me, even when I say hello directly to them. Now don't get me wrong, I've been treated just as rudely by plenty of white people, but there is a real language and cultural barrier for me here in Irvine that is making me consider MV and AV more and more seriously every day. I used to take my son on playdates with a Korean kid from his daycare, but when I got divorced, the parents acted really weird - the husband wouldn't even acknowledge I was in their house.
And frankly, it would be nice to have neighbors who speak the same language as me! (My neighbor on the left speaks only Farsi and on the right, only some form of Chinese. It's very difficult to cultivate friendships in this situation!)</blockquote>
ISM, my husband and I had a very difficult time when we moved to Irvine. We would walk right past Asian people and they would never respond to us when we said "hi" - in fact, they wouldn't even look at us. Our neighbors wouldn't talk to us or even look at us. We tried to be friends with them or even just neighborly, but they wanted nothing to do with us. It was very frustrating. Of course, they aren't all this way, in fact one of my best friends is Asian. But we just found most of them didn't want anything to do with us. And I can understand if they were intimidated by the language barrier if they didn't speak English, but I'm sure they know the work "hi" or "hello" by now.
This is one of the main reasons we left Irvine. So, hopefully you won't take it personally when some Asians don't socialize with you - they don't with me either. ;-P I've met more people in Coto in 6 months than I did in Irvine in 4 years.</blockquote>
CalGal,
Are these Fresh Off the Boat Asians or Second Generation Asians? We, 2.0 Asians love white people. Therefore if Panda is your neighbor, I'll make sure to have my entire family to say "HI" ten times with a big SMILE.
ISM, if the asians neighbors don't say "hi" to you that's their problem not yours. I hear you on Aliso Viejo. With a 35% - 40% Asian population in Irvine, it makes even Panda a little uncomfortable. I mean what is Panda to do when he finds out that he is surrounded by all Korean FOB neighbors living in Irvine.
I have heard my share of horror stories of Korean FOBs living in Irvine. What has your experience been having them as your neighbors?
And frankly, it would be nice to have neighbors who speak the same language as me! (My neighbor on the left speaks only Farsi and on the right, only some form of Chinese. It's very difficult to cultivate friendships in this situation!)</blockquote>
ISM, my husband and I had a very difficult time when we moved to Irvine. We would walk right past Asian people and they would never respond to us when we said "hi" - in fact, they wouldn't even look at us. Our neighbors wouldn't talk to us or even look at us. We tried to be friends with them or even just neighborly, but they wanted nothing to do with us. It was very frustrating. Of course, they aren't all this way, in fact one of my best friends is Asian. But we just found most of them didn't want anything to do with us. And I can understand if they were intimidated by the language barrier if they didn't speak English, but I'm sure they know the work "hi" or "hello" by now.
This is one of the main reasons we left Irvine. So, hopefully you won't take it personally when some Asians don't socialize with you - they don't with me either. ;-P I've met more people in Coto in 6 months than I did in Irvine in 4 years.</blockquote>
CalGal,
Are these Fresh Off the Boat Asians or Second Generation Asians? We, 2.0 Asians love white people. Therefore if Panda is your neighbor, I'll make sure to have my entire family to say "HI" ten times with a big SMILE.
ISM, if the asians neighbors don't say "hi" to you that's their problem not yours. I hear you on Aliso Viejo. With a 35% - 40% Asian population in Irvine, it makes even Panda a little uncomfortable. I mean what is Panda to do when he finds out that he is surrounded by all Korean FOB neighbors living in Irvine.
I have heard my share of horror stories of Korean FOBs living in Irvine. What has your experience been having them as your neighbors?