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I came across this movie trailer a few weeks ago. I love the social commentary of how most men are basically alone. Why is that? Remember how easy it was to make friends when we were young? In elementary, all you need is someone with the same color shirt and you were best friends. In middle-school the best friend was the one you swapped game-boy games with. In High School your friend was the first person that could drive.



Why it so hard to make and keep adult friends in Irvine, especially at this life-stage? Even for lunch, it seems like we have to schedule months in advance; and something always comes up where we have to reschedule. I realize the realities of the Irvine male, I?m one of them; we are out there trying to make a living, and not just an ordinary living, we are trying to make an OC living! Some are very busy with wife and kids; some are in grad school and even PhD programs. If we are not busy, there is this overwhelming pressure to stay busy! Subconsciously, if I don?t think I?m busy, I?m stricken with guilt and anxiety. Everyone else is busy being productive, why am I not?



I haven?t spoken to the few long-time friends that I have. Although I can call them out of the blue, we are not nearly as close as we were as when we were singles. I do have a great group of local guy that I check in regularly with; we all however struggle with the same perfect excuse. I tell myself, right now is the time in my life where I have to put my nose to the grind stone, work my butt off, build the career, save up, buy that house and then, I can enjoy my <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/5086/">third-places</a>. In crunching the numbers, somehow I can?t figure out how after buying the house I would have less financial stress. Ironically like with any past life stresses, it?s always the guys in my life that keep me sane and centered.
 
These polls should have an option for multiple choice.



What's interesting is how transitional those choices are... each one could apply at a given point depending on what your personal situation is.



Where are the options for:



- My only male friends are posters on the IHB



or



- I only have female friends (man... that would go over well with the sig oth)
 
[quote author="irvine_home_owner" date=1241234943]These polls should have an option for multiple choice.



What's interesting is how transitional those choices are... each one could apply at a given point depending on what your personal situation is.



Where are the options for:



- My only male friends are posters on the IHB



or



- I only have female friends (man... that would go over well with the sig oth)</blockquote>


Thanks for the input, I'm not sure where you are going though, this poll is targeted only to Irvine men obviously on the IHB, and their current male only friendships.
 
[quote author="roundcorners" date=1241235175][quote author="irvine_home_owner" date=1241234943]These polls should have an option for multiple choice.



What's interesting is how transitional those choices are... each one could apply at a given point depending on what your personal situation is.



Where are the options for:



- My only male friends are posters on the IHB



or



- I only have female friends (man... that would go over well with the sig oth)</blockquote>


Thanks for the input, I'm not sure where you are going though, this poll is targeted only to Irvine men obviously on the IHB, and their current male only friendships.</blockquote>
I guess I'm not good at being funny lately.



There are some men who have no friends at all and their only relationships are with online buddies like on Facebook, WoW, Twitter or IHB.



There are some men who have no male friends and only have female friends. But that probably is a bad indicator for their marriage.
 
[quote author="irvine_home_owner" date=1241235575][quote author="roundcorners" date=1241235175][quote author="irvine_home_owner" date=1241234943]These polls should have an option for multiple choice.



What's interesting is how transitional those choices are... each one could apply at a given point depending on what your personal situation is.



Where are the options for:



- My only male friends are posters on the IHB



or



- I only have female friends (man... that would go over well with the sig oth)</blockquote>


Thanks for the input, I'm not sure where you are going though, this poll is targeted only to Irvine men obviously on the IHB, and their current male only friendships.</blockquote>
I guess I'm not good at being funny lately.



There are some men who have no friends at all and their only relationships are with online buddies like on Facebook, WoW, Twitter or IHB.



There are some men who have no male friends and only have female friends. But that probably is a bad indicator for their marriage.</blockquote>


For this poll, I'm talking only about face-to-face relationships...
 
Don't you guys have coworker friends that you can hang out with at lunch or go places with then? My husband is seriously the most anti-social person I know. His idea of a conversation are one-word answers and random grunts. He never initiates outtings with guy friends. Luckily, he works with two of his best long-time friends and so a couple times a week they go out to lunch together and hit up Microcenter. If it wasn't for that, I'd worry about him. I encourage him to spend less time with me and more time out with friends because I think it's really important for your mental well-being. He says it's not, though, and will never agree to do anything with them on a weekend or after work. So I just wonder - you can socialize with coworkers and get something out of it that way, no?
 
[quote author="SoCal78" date=1241236088]Don't you guys have coworker friends that you can hang out with at lunch or go places with then? My husband is seriously the most anti-social person I know. His idea of a conversation are one-word answers and random grunts. He never initiates outtings with guy friends. Luckily, he works with two of his best long-time friends and so a couple times a week they go out to lunch together and hit up Microcenter. If it wasn't for that, I'd worry about him. I encourage him to spend less time with me and more time out with friends because I think it's really important for your mental well-being. He says it's not, though, and will never agree to do anything with them on a weekend or after work. So I just wonder - you can socialize with coworkers and get something out of it that way, no?</blockquote>


totally, thanks for that input!
 
I'll hang with anyone who will do a shot of Jager with me. That's the secret handshake, as long as you can manage that, there are probably all sorts of things we agree on.
 
[quote author="SoCal78" date=1241236088]Luckily, he works with two of his best long-time friends and so a couple times a week they go out to lunch together and hit up Microcenter. If it wasn't for that, I'd worry about him.</blockquote>
I'm usually in the Laptop or LCD TV section.



Lately we've been hanging out in the video games area... I can't believe how bad my co-workers are at fighting games. It must be because they never knew what an arcade was.
 
[quote author="CK" date=1241236466]I'll hang with anyone who will do a shot of Jager with me. That's the secret handshake, as long as you can manage that, there are probably all sorts of things we agree on.</blockquote>


YUCK?
 
So how does this poll work... are the lower choices supersets of the higher choices?



Like I think:



? I have a few good buddies to hang with and do stuff with

? I have a few selected good friends that I completely trust

? I have long-time best friends that I shared the challenges and triumphs of every life-stage with



... can all apply to many men.



Some of us have different sets of friends who fall into those categories (friends from work, friends from high school, friends from college, friends from IHB... etc etc)
 
Yeah, I'm with IHO. I have no idea how to vote on this one. I have some lifelong friends that I completely trust but we don't hang out nearly as much as we used to. Maybe once a week at most. Then theres some work buddies I do other things like paintball, snowboard, and other sports with. But thats even more rare.



So I'd guess I'm in the middle somewhere.
 
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I have a few trusted friends. Not many these days. One of my oldest and best

has fallen on hard times. Spent the week working me for a loan.

Learned that lesson long ago. NEVER lend money. Give a little away.

BUT NEVER do a loan with a good friend. Even if its a trusted friend.

Its the kiss of death for a friendship.



As far as Jaeger Shots. No Thanks. Maybe a chilled Petron shot.

But you can keep the cough syrup.



Most of my trusted friends are work related and a few are FEMALES.

Nothing wrong with female friends. Many a great relationship starts

as just friends.
 
Twin brother... only a few in this world know what that type of friendship/relationship/closeness is like.

Finishing each other's sentences and thoughts can be quite annoying.
 
what is up with everyone thinking im Panda!?



l've been around waaay before he even came...



I guess you guys can have multiple answers, but I guess just answer which is the most accurate to date relationships...
 
[quote author="irvine_home_owner" date=1241237053][quote author="SoCal78" date=1241236088]Luckily, he works with two of his best long-time friends and so a couple times a week they go out to lunch together and hit up Microcenter. If it wasn't for that, I'd worry about him.</blockquote>
I'm usually in the Laptop or LCD TV section.



Lately we've been hanging out in the video games area... I can't believe how bad my co-workers are at fighting games. It must be because they never knew what an arcade was.</blockquote>


I'm up for some OG SFII
 
[quote author="bltserv" date=1241244912]

Most of my trusted friends are work related and a few are FEMALES.

Nothing wrong with female friends. Many a great relationship starts

as just friends.</blockquote>


You are right, there is nothing wrong with female friends, just as long as they honor and help your marriage; it's even healthy! But there is nothing like hanging with the guys...
 
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