Protoss,
I just wanted to share with you my experiences with backing out on non-contingent housing contracts. I have successfully backed out of 3 contracts with the following builders: Shea Homes, William Lyon, and Standard Pacific. I did this during the real-estate heyday- 2000- 2003. Every contract always said that they would not return my deposit.
This is what the sales agents always told me. Builders always return your money eventually, because they cannot charge twice for the same product. It's just a secret real estate code.
Shea Homes- they held onto my deposit until the home I had tried to purchase was sold and I asked for it back. I kept calling the sales office to see if the house was sold. Once it was, I called the headquarters and asked for the deposit back. They sent me a check for the full amount of the deposit.
William Lyon- same as Shea Homes.
Standard Pacific- When we fell out of escrow, we had put about $15000 in upgrades and a $10,000 deposit. We fell out about a 1.5 months before closing (no flooring choices made yet.) The sales manager told me that our deposits for everything would be returned as soon as another buyer was found and closed escrow. That took about 6 months. We got everything back, minues $100 for escrow fees.
Basically, builders don't want a bad rap, so generally if you are persistent and patient enough, you can get your money back. If reasoning with them doesn't work, then maybe you should try this.... The OC register seems to like real estate scandals, you should tell your builder that if they keep your money, you will do 10,000 dollars worth of bad advertising for them by telling your story on every single message board on the OC register, etc. That should scare them a little. I hope this helps.