[quote author="cl1" date=1242950293]It all depends on the person. Some people have no problem renting forever; Some do want to buy, you need to figure out what is important to you. I would say in general couples with kids may place greater value in owning, because of its stability and you don't have to move subject to a landlord's wish. However this also depends on the parent. (some parents have no problem giving their kids soda to drink, some don't at all)
Also, in general, I would say to treat buying a Primary residence the same as buying a stock may not be the best for you. A stock has only one attribute: price. You want to buy it low, low, low. One share of GM stock, for example, is no different from another share of GM stock. A house, however, even the ones on the same street, are widely different: some face the sun, some have better conditions and upgrade, some are closer to the park, some are next to a busy street. Even if you can determine the exact bottom, how do you know for sure that the right house will be there for you? Many people have the experience that it takes months to have a house with a desired floor plan to come to market.
So my advice is that if you want to buy a house, approach it using a criteria of 50% price and 50% desirability. This means you keep looking for one that fits in terms of location, floor plan, desired upgrade, yard size, etc, then also consider price, but do not focus 100% on finding the bottom. I would say if a house has features that you really like, it may even be worth paying extra. It's your life, your house, and you got to live in it, what's wrong with paying a little extra? We all pay extra for nice things such as an iphone. Yet when it comes to a house, who says we can not?</blockquote>
The lender says so because your DTI is out of wack. Again, it's one thing to want someone and it's a whole other thing if you can really afford it. The reason people overpay for homes probably mainly due to emotions and impulse more than anything else.