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<p>re: would you walk away from a house you love knowing there is no value added? </p>

<p>Because:</p>

<p>1. I love have extra money for the little things (ex. eating out, cheap fun stuff, cell phone service, etc.) more </p>

<p>2. A lot of hard work went into/will go into making money to pay for that house ... and I don't want all that effort thrown away when the money evaporates</p>
 
thanks anonymous- my wife doesn't understand that I will have to get a second job. I suppose if we stay here for 10 years we might break even.
 
How exactly do you fall in love with an object?





<p class="pageheader"><a href="http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/fourtruths.html">The Four Noble Truths</a></p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a href="http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/fourtruths.html#truth1" linkindex="0" set="yes">1. Life means suffering.</a></p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a href="http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/fourtruths.html#truth2" linkindex="1" set="yes">2. The origin of suffering is attachment.</a></p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a href="http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/fourtruths.html#truth3" linkindex="2" set="yes">3. The cessation of suffering is attainable.</a></p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a href="http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/fourtruths.html#truth4" linkindex="3" set="yes">4. The path to the cessation of suffering.</a></p>

<p> </p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a name="truth1"></a>1. Life means suffering. </p>

<p>To live means to suffer, because the human nature is not perfect and neither is the world we live in. During our lifetime, we inevitably have to endure physical suffering such as pain, sickness, injury, tiredness, old age, and eventually death; and we have to endure psychological suffering like sadness, fear, frustration, disappointment, and depression. Although there are different degrees of suffering and there are also positive experiences in life that we perceive as the opposite of suffering, such as ease, comfort and happiness, life in its totality is imperfect and incomplete, because our world is subject to impermanence. This means we are never able to keep permanently what we strive for, and just as happy moments pass by, we ourselves and our loved ones will pass away one day, too.</p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a name="truth2"></a><strong>2. The origin of suffering is attachment.</strong></p>

<p><strong>The origin of suffering is attachment to transient things and the ignorance thereof. Transient things do not only include the physical objects that surround us, but also ideas, and -in a greater sense- all objects of our perception. Ignorance is the lack of understanding of how our mind is attached to impermanent things. The reasons for suffering are desire, passion, ardour, pursuit of wealth and prestige, striving for fame and popularity, or in short: <em>craving</em> and <em>clinging</em>. Because the objects of our attachment are transient, their loss is inevitable, thus suffering will necessarily follow. Objects of attachment also include the idea of a "self" which is a delusion, because there is no abiding self. What we call "self" is just an imagined entity, and we are merely a part of the ceaseless becoming of the universe.</strong></p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a name="truth3"></a>3. The cessation of suffering is attainable.</p>

<p>The cessation of suffering can be attained through <em>nirodha</em>. Nirodha means the unmaking of sensual craving and conceptual attachment. The third noble truth expresses the idea that suffering can be ended by attaining dispassion. Nirodha extinguishes all forms of clinging and attachment. This means that suffering can be overcome through human activity, simply by removing the cause of suffering. Attaining and perfecting dispassion is a process of many levels that ultimately results in the state of <em>Nirvana</em>. Nirvana means freedom from all worries, troubles, complexes, fabrications and ideas. Nirvana is not comprehensible for those who have not attained it.</p>

<p class="paragraphheader"><a name="truth4"></a>4. The path to the cessation of suffering.</p>

<p>There is a path to the end of suffering - a gradual path of self-improvement, which is described more detailed in the <a href="http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/eightfoldpath.html" linkindex="4" set="yes">Eightfold Path</a>. It is the middle way between the two extremes of excessive self-indulgence (hedonism) and excessive self-mortification (asceticism); and it leads to the end of the cycle of rebirth. The latter quality discerns it from other paths which are merely "wandering on the wheel of becoming", because these do not have a final object. The path to the end of suffering can extend over many lifetimes, throughout which every individual rebirth is subject to karmic conditioning. Craving, ignorance, delusions, and its effects will disappear gradually, as progress is made on the path.</p>
 
Why should you get the second job? Just calculate the extra costs & chilcare costs on an annual basis, mark up for taxes, and tell her when she lands a job that pays that, we'll buy the house.
 
<p>WARNING! MANY PHILOSOPHICAL THOUGHTS BELOW!!!</p>

<p>Umm, I have never understood how Buddhism can teach the illusion of self. The people who allege this are the most "selfy" people I know, more personality, wit, etc.</p>

<p>So even tho I may be transient I cannot believe in this illusion of self thing.</p>

<p>Also, there are things that are pretty non transient. The earth itself for one. And there are something like 40 "eternal" genes, which have been passed from parent to descendent for as long as life existed on earth, which we have in common with all other living things. 2-3-4 billion years isn't eternity, but it's a pretty long time.</p>

<p>Anyhow, eternity is a concept, a mathematical concept at that, and like many mathematical concepts may not actually have a relationship with reality.</p>

<p>Budda lived at a time when transient things were more transient, suffering more unavoidable, and most people lived on the verge of starvation most of the time. He also lived at a time when people were pondering the nature of the universe, and really didn't have much to go on. See the preSocratics, expecially Heraclites, who only left 50 sentences, each on a gem. And discussions of the One and the Many etc, etc.</p>

<p>The hub, who was very into Buddhism for a while, the scientist, thinks the Buddha perceived the wave function of the universe whilst sitting under his tree. Well, maybe.</p>

<p>That being said, we can certainly try to limit our attachments. Most of the people I know actually think that money can make them happy, and even that money equals happiness. Every once in a while I point that out, and the person agrees I am right, and then goes back automatically to the money is good, more is better, etc theme.</p>

<p>I do like to philosophize and you gave me an excuse!!</p>

<p> </p>
 
Falling in love with a house if attachment, pure and simple. It leads to suffering, as many people are going to find out when they get foreclosed on.





BTW, howard, do you and bluemoon share a computer, or do you like talking to yourself?
 
<p>Love leads to attachment, attachment leads to foreclousure, foreclosure leads to suffering! Clearly IR has outlined the path to the Dark Side!</p>

<p><img height="225" alt="" width="300" src="http://www.bligblog.com/media/08-30-07/strong-is-the-force-with-yoda-cat.jpg" /></p>
 
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