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I know, I?m recycling an old post to a <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/1244/">sense of community</a>; but it was so good that I?ll just add a new poll to it? (It is assumed that you automatically grant permission to the entries above; ex: if you poll ?family members? you also mean to include ?Wife & Kids?)
That old post has taken on a whole new meaning since I wrote it last year; we now have a new addition to the family. So there is one more person that I have given permission to, to interrupt my daily routines. As I am writing this post I am currently sitting at home; it is 11am. I?m on the edge and stressed out! I am trying to be as useful as possible here, but my day is shot; the wife is out doing her hair and I probably can?t see any customers today.
I know my wife and I planned this. She needed some pampering time to herself and yes, she has been with the kid for the last few days, all day. I know I can work from home, but I just know, sales are slipping through the cracks as I write. I?m trying to understand, I?m trying to be patient; I know the kid won?t always be 16-weeks old forever, and this needy; and this is a special season in our lives. But why does it have to be this difficult?
I?m coming to terms of being a new dad; the reality is hitting me hard as I?m having to die to myself everyday. Maybe my only job right now is just to be a good dad. I?m not saying that I have to quite my job, but the family should come first. I know the wife is sensitive to our income and expenses but if she is not stretching my faith of finances, the baby now is too.
Just this past week; following our bi-annual convention; a huge sale simply fell on my lap. I did NOTHING to deserve it; it was a new doctor, I have never met before and he simply handed me the first big job of the year. I?m completely sensitive to everyone?s personal beliefs here, but for me, it was all God. I have to admit, it?s hard having my faith be stretch this way; but he know how to get my attention. He is constantly reminding me that he?s got it taken care of. That it?ll be alright?
Here is my post from before:
Wanted to comment a little on the topic of a sense of community. And this was a big concern between my wife and I. Yes, it a sad norm in Southern California where you could live next to a neighbor for years without knowing their names, and we seen plenty of families where they pull right into their garages, close the door behind them and not see them for weeks. I know most of Irvine comprise of <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/5207/">young couples with small children</a>; parents who are usually both working and trying to raise families. Needless to say, we all lead very busy lives, the result which we don?t have much energies, time or resources to lend to relationships beyond our own. This was the biggest argument of not to buy in Irvine when the time comes. We have friends in older cities like La Mirada, Buena Park, Tustin or even the South Bay, where cost of living is slightly lower. Where possibly one parent is home and neighborly relationships can have a chance to grow.
My argument still comes down to what your priorities are, is it to work 70+ hours a week. Come home all stressed, tired and grouchy or to really scale down our lifestyle and to really invest in the important things of life, mainly relationships. Indeed, a sense of community is truly hard to come by. It does take personal vulnerability, risk, hard work, and time. We can?t simply rely on the HOA to simply plan events and hope you get invited to a BBQ or two. That sense of community can exist wherever you live, whoever you are. All it takes is a decision. When our family finally buys, ?affordability? will also have to mean: taking a day off to help a neighbor move; taking someone to the airport; watching their pets when they are away; hosting <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/5221/">get together</a>; basically being there for someone who lives near me. That is truest sense of the word community; I like to use the term: ?Giving someone the permission to interrupt?. Community to me means, to make it known to neighbors that they have permission to interrupt my agenda and that could happen anywhere you live.
That old post has taken on a whole new meaning since I wrote it last year; we now have a new addition to the family. So there is one more person that I have given permission to, to interrupt my daily routines. As I am writing this post I am currently sitting at home; it is 11am. I?m on the edge and stressed out! I am trying to be as useful as possible here, but my day is shot; the wife is out doing her hair and I probably can?t see any customers today.
I know my wife and I planned this. She needed some pampering time to herself and yes, she has been with the kid for the last few days, all day. I know I can work from home, but I just know, sales are slipping through the cracks as I write. I?m trying to understand, I?m trying to be patient; I know the kid won?t always be 16-weeks old forever, and this needy; and this is a special season in our lives. But why does it have to be this difficult?
I?m coming to terms of being a new dad; the reality is hitting me hard as I?m having to die to myself everyday. Maybe my only job right now is just to be a good dad. I?m not saying that I have to quite my job, but the family should come first. I know the wife is sensitive to our income and expenses but if she is not stretching my faith of finances, the baby now is too.
Just this past week; following our bi-annual convention; a huge sale simply fell on my lap. I did NOTHING to deserve it; it was a new doctor, I have never met before and he simply handed me the first big job of the year. I?m completely sensitive to everyone?s personal beliefs here, but for me, it was all God. I have to admit, it?s hard having my faith be stretch this way; but he know how to get my attention. He is constantly reminding me that he?s got it taken care of. That it?ll be alright?
Here is my post from before:
Wanted to comment a little on the topic of a sense of community. And this was a big concern between my wife and I. Yes, it a sad norm in Southern California where you could live next to a neighbor for years without knowing their names, and we seen plenty of families where they pull right into their garages, close the door behind them and not see them for weeks. I know most of Irvine comprise of <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/5207/">young couples with small children</a>; parents who are usually both working and trying to raise families. Needless to say, we all lead very busy lives, the result which we don?t have much energies, time or resources to lend to relationships beyond our own. This was the biggest argument of not to buy in Irvine when the time comes. We have friends in older cities like La Mirada, Buena Park, Tustin or even the South Bay, where cost of living is slightly lower. Where possibly one parent is home and neighborly relationships can have a chance to grow.
My argument still comes down to what your priorities are, is it to work 70+ hours a week. Come home all stressed, tired and grouchy or to really scale down our lifestyle and to really invest in the important things of life, mainly relationships. Indeed, a sense of community is truly hard to come by. It does take personal vulnerability, risk, hard work, and time. We can?t simply rely on the HOA to simply plan events and hope you get invited to a BBQ or two. That sense of community can exist wherever you live, whoever you are. All it takes is a decision. When our family finally buys, ?affordability? will also have to mean: taking a day off to help a neighbor move; taking someone to the airport; watching their pets when they are away; hosting <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/5221/">get together</a>; basically being there for someone who lives near me. That is truest sense of the word community; I like to use the term: ?Giving someone the permission to interrupt?. Community to me means, to make it known to neighbors that they have permission to interrupt my agenda and that could happen anywhere you live.